Client Love ❤️

I’m going to *try* to write this without sounding creepy .

The love and affection I (and I’m 100% sure this is also the case for many other continuity midwives) feel for my lovely clients is unreal .

I feel incredibly fond of them, I feel very very protective of them, I fall in love with their families and I want them to be happy, protected and thriving.

I think of them a lot, wonder how they are doing and generally feel very invested in their well-being.

If there are challenges they are going though I feel it very deeply.

I’m pretty sure there is some sort of oxytocin bonding at play .

Sometimes this bond evolves, until at point of discharge from my care, people can crack on with their life and continue their pathway into parenthood without me in it. I will still think of them though.

Sometimes it changes into comfortable ‘let’s exchange texts now and then and catch up’ relationships.

I often end up following their family’s evolution via shared photos and messages.

The JOY I get from that is unreal.

Sometimes the messages are sad ones, and the empathy I feel when I get those is deep .

And sometimes the bond mutates into lifelong friendships that are really really wonderful.

Seeing tiny brand new humans grow and develop into little people and *actually* having a relationship with them (and their parents) is the cherry on top of midwifery work

I’m so grateful I can work in the way that I do, still, depite all the challenges IMs have had over the years .

And I hope this way of working stays possible forever.

It’s far too precious to lose .